Relationship Analysis: Tauriel and Kili from The Hobbits

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The Hobbits: Desolation of Smaug, I saw the movie parts a couple of times, but during those times, I’ve never seen any scene of Tauriel and Kili until two weeks ago. I was able to watch the whole movie. Then luckily, since The Hobbits is the movie of the month in Star Movies this October, they aired everything including the last installment, The Hobbits: Battle of the Five Armies. So I finally got to see what happens to Tauriel and Kili. Well, I know what’s already going to happen because I’ve read the books.

Their romantic subplot captured my attention, but I told myself that I’m not going to write a relationship analysis between them because they have too few screentime together. I don’t know enough about their characters, let alone their lovemap. Yet here I am due to the numerous video interviews and reviews I’ve read about the movie. I somehow got the information I needed to make this post possible.

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Tauriel and Kili’s relationship in the movie is a non-conventional love story or romantic subplot between an elf and a dwarf.

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Tauriel is a low Silvan elf and a Captain of the Guards in Mirkwood. Her parents were murdered when she was young and Thranduil took care of her and raised her beside Legolas. Tauriel is played by Evangeline Lilly.

handsome kiliKili is a the son of Dis, and nephew of Thorin Oakenshield, son of Thrain, son of Thror and he is supposedly the third in line crown prince of Durin. He grew up seeing Thorin as his father, uncle, and his king. He’s got a close relationship with his oldest brother, Fili. Kili is played by Aidan Turner.

In the movie, he encountered Tauriel in the forest, when she saved his life. After that, he started flirting with her. The short relationship between Tauriel and Kili is just a romantic subplot or others are calling it as an emotional fodder for the audience. Aside from that, if you read the book, you will find out that it won’t make you feel so emotional. I love the book, especially The Silmarillion. It’s great. So their subplot is used to make the story more relatable to the audience. Well, whatever the other reasons for their subplot, I only care about the quality and the validity of their relationship to me.

At first, you would think that it wasn’t love because they’ve only known each other for a very short time. Some even made a joke by using some screencaps in the scene where Tauriel healed Kili’s wound. Every time I remember this it just makes me laugh. The picture is blurry, but you can read it here.

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If you read the book, there’s actually no way to tell that Tauriel and Kili only spent one time talking together in the Mirkwood’s cells, because in the books the dwarves were locked up for months. So if Tauriel established a friendship and a connection with Kili in one scene, she could have visited him and talked to him often which is an opening for them to fall for each other.

Before anything else, let’s establish if there was love at first sight and if they fell in love in the movie:

(1) In watching the scene where they met, Tauriel immediately made an impression to Kili. He gave her a look of incredulity and amazement. The second time they’ve met, he flirted with her, and her response was satisfactory to him. The third time they’ve met, he created an impression with her when he tried to fool her with the rune stone then he started talking about his mom. That’s saying a lot especially to Tauriel considering her upbringing. Her race was taught how dwarves only care about jewels and their gold, but here’s a guy talking about his promise to his mom says otherwise. And Kili was probably taught of the hatred of their race because Thranduil didn’t help them years ago, but Tauriel showed Kili otherwise.

So from the start, there was something going on already. They only got to know each other deeper on their third meeting. So, yes, I’m pretty sure it was love at first sight, no matter how fast.

(2) Their situation also showed that they fell in love with each other. They were in the position to fall in love with each other because they were vulnerable. According to Dr. Helen Fisher, people have the tendency to fall in love when they are vulnerable. There was a bounty on the heads of the Durin line, so Kili is practically a dead man walking.

He almost died in the movie a couple of times and Tauriel saved him three times. Tauriel is also vulnerable at that time because she was trying to help the people of Laketown and especially when she got herself entangled with the dwarfs. She was drawn to Kili from the moment they met.

If you want a summary of the second movie and the romantic moments, The Silver Petticoat Digest included Tauriel and Kili’s moment here.

3) Also, Kili fell in love for Tauriel is because she saved his life more than once and she saved him too. It is one of the reasons people fall in love because we all have a damsel in distress part of us that dreams to be saved by a knight in shining armor. In their case, Kili is the damsel in distress until he returned the favor.

4) Last but not the list, Dr. Helen Fisher also confirmed in her research that when someone fall for us, we also have the possibility to fall for them just because they fell for us. Kili took an interest on Tauriel and he showed her his emotions, and he shared his world to her, that’s some of the reasons for Tauriel to fall for him. He appreciated her for she is and he shared his world to her without their races’ prejudice.

5) In the movie, it also supported Dr. Helen Fisher’s research from her book, Why We Love. As adversity intensifies, so does romantic passion. Adversity heightens passion, romance, and romantic zeal. Adversity stimulates romantic ardour. Adversity heightens pursuit, just as barriers intensify romantic passion.

If you want to understand the Science of Love, the how’s and the why’s of love, you can buy it here and Lovesick by Frank Tallis.

What are the adversities between Tauriel and Kili?

  • Since Tauriel is an elf, and Kili is a dwarf, their race actually forbids them to be together. Tauriel didn’t follow her King’s instructions. She killed the orcs and when she found Kili dying, she couldn’t leave him and ended up healing him. Another adversity here is before she had to choose between following Legolas or staying behind to heal Kili.
  • Also, since their connection is forbidden, it also creates feelings of excitement and novelty for creating a friendship or more between the characters. Their characters are both young, so they were probably drawn to each other due to their differences and worldview.
  • The dwarfs were about to be slaughtered in Ravenhill and Tauriel’s desperation to save Kili made her stopped King Thranduil  from leaving. She tried to stop her King, by aiming her arrow to him.
  • When Tauriel is being beaten by an orc, Kili ran to her side to save her.

In the third movie, The Silver Petticoat also wrote the summary and the romantic moments between Tauriel and Kili here.

I consider their romantic subplot as a relationship because:
kili-and-tauriel– no matter how few the screentime of the actors, in the two movies, they were able to establish an effective chemistry between the characters in total five scenes. Three in the second movie, and two in the third movie. The best part is they didn’t even do so much in that screen time. It was very subtle, but it was very effective. I mean come on! They got my attention. If they have chemistry, I believe it’s romantic chemistry because of the commitment they had towards each other. They were drawn to each other whether they like it or not.  And *empowerment chemistry because they somehow made each other grow in seeing and understanding their different perspectives, upbringing, and beliefs.

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Of course, it’s also thanks to the great chemistry offscreen the actors Evangeline and Aidan have. Whatever the kind of chemistry the actors have offscreen, it was very effective onscreen.

  • Based from my observation of the trilogy, interviews, and blog reviews, the characters’ personality have a high *compatibility.

Tauriel is introverted, socially awkward, dominant, independent, competitive, she is her own person, she has a big heart to share to every soul in middle earth and not just her race, she is curious, rebellious, somehow inexperienced about life and the outside world, she loves the idea of freedom, traveling in different places, and experiencing the world. Her King raised her and trained her to be the best, and Kili gave her more reason to be more than just a Captain of the Guards in one realm.

According to actress, Evangeline Lilly, “…And then as Kili enters her world, he opens up her heart and mind and her soul to the notion of innocence again. She sees innocence and purity in him, and she sees a spark of life that she hasn’t known since before her parents were killed, and it reminds her of the young elf that she maybe threw aside in her pain”. Through this, it shows how strong her lovemap came into play. Kili symbolized a part of herself she lost when her parents died.

Kili is extroverted, adorable, charming, likable, audacious, cheeky, flirtatious, persistent, brave, reckless, young at heart, pure, innocent, experienced in the outside world, vocal and showy when it comes to his affections. They are two kindred souls who found each other by chance, no matter how different, some of their similarities pulled them together. Kili is called reckless by many, but ever since meeting Tauriel, she made him feel he can do anything.

  • Basing it from the *Principle of Completion, Tauriel and Kili made each other feel the key feeling they are looking for. Kili told Tauriel that she made him feel alive and he captured her attention when he shared his adventures with her. Tauriel is not very vocal, but you have to consider that she grew up in a place where people hardly show affection towards her and who controls the way she acts. Kili, on the other hand, adored and appreciated the person she is, let her act freely or he let her be herself and the best part about him is he shared his world and his adventure to her.
  • They became friends and so much more because of the *Intimacy that had formed in the second movie. Kili shared the rune stone that symbolizes his promise to his mom that he will return to her. When Tauriel shared the elves love of the Starlight, Kili shared his experience about the Firemoon that somehow impressed Tauriel.

Take note when something bad happens, Thranduil locked up all his subjects in Mirkwood to protect them, they don’t help out. The only place Tauriel had been is in the forest, but she’d never been to other places.

It may be just a subplot to the movie, but the producers and scriptwriters worked hard to establish Tauriel and Kili’s story because they even made a theme for them.

Tauriel’s and Kili’s script from the second movie was used as the lyrics of the theme.

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The lyrics are in two languages as you can see below, in Elvish and Khuzdul.

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Below is the whole lyrics characters’ script in the 2nd movie. The first verse refers to Tauriel’s script and the second verse refers to Kili’s script. I agree that Howard Shore captured their romantic subplot perfectly through the theme and also with what the Silver Petticoat said in the blog. That Peter Jackson and his team of writers introduced a beautifully romantic story about two characters that unite as if through a poetic dream.

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The theme’s lyrics was written by Philippa Boyens and Howard Shore. The lyrics were translated by David Salo. This theme is based on concept of duality of two voices conversing, as represented by the flute and the oboe. The relationship theme here is between two cultures that traditionally don’t go together.

This is how the theme was made and how it helped tell Tauriel and Kili’s theme. Watch below:

Sad, but it was truly doomed from the start because in The Hobbits book, all the royal line of Durin will die because Dain is the one who will become The King Under The Mountain. It’s still beautiful in my eyes, no matter what.

  • Tauriel and Kili somehow had established a friendship and some familiarity in the movies because of what they shared in their conversation during the dwarves captivity in Mirkwood. Their friendship allowed them to see past each other’s differences and they were able to care for each other.
  • As for the *lovemap, it’s not just chemistry and compatibility that makes the characters match each other’s *lovemap, it’s also because of their upbringing. Different, but similar at the same time. Tauriel and Kili are both looking for something and somehow they were able to give each other that feeling.
  • I debated whether to share this or not, but Kili and Tauriel’s pairing as of now is one of the most ideal couple for me because the writers matched their chemistry, personality, and situation so well to the point that they seem to be twin flames as well. Twin flames is different from a soul mate. According to the literature is that twin flames are the people in our lives who we are going to meet from time to time and help us grow up. The problem is we’re going to be so attach to them to the point of wanting them desperately to become a part of our lives, but they will never belong to us or with us. My predicament here is that your twin soul can never be your soul mate at the same time, but Tauriel and Kili seemed to be soul mates. We expect them to be soul mates because Tauriel fell in love with Kili and elves fall in love only once or chooses only mate in their lifetime. If their mate dies, they fade. Tolkien had written how dwarfs, humans, and elves love and how they grieve.

In reality, will this kind of relationship work considering their differences in race and height?

Yes, I believe so, as long as they don’t let their differences get between them through communication and quality time together. The characters have great chemistry and some things in common, a compatible personality, they are somehow friends and intimate, and their upbringing makes them kindred souls. I can actually imagine Tauriel taming or could handle Kili’s recklessness and just like Evangeline said in her interview, Kili can crack Tauriel’s personality in return.

As for their height difference, I actually know a couple who had more height complications than the characters did. Tauriel and Kili’s complicated height difference is nothing compared to this actress and her lover for years. The actress only stands 3 ft while her previous lover is 6 ft tall or more. I don’t know how they get intimate physically. They probably just do what their height allows them to do OR NOTHING… 😉 I’m not really sure what Tauriel and Kili’s height, but if I compare their pictures together to the actress and her lover, Tauriel and Kili can manage more and with lesser height problems.

Below is  The Feast of Starlight by Howard Shore, Tauriel and Kili’s relationship theme. Enjoy!

At the end of the movie, Lord of the Rings, I remembered Frodo giving Sam the book he and Bilbo wrote their adventures. So I am wishing that Peter Jackson will find a way to use that opportunity to make a movie again. Simply because I love watching the adventures in Middle Earth and I really hope to see Tauriel and Kili reunited. Maybe there’s another way to do that. Who knows, right?

*Thus marked words are defined on this LINK.

Tune in for my next relationship analysis. I love this couple, but it’s tragic. Next week, I promise to write about a movie with a happy ending.

Or basing it on the fact that Tauriel and Kili are twin flames or twin souls, that’s why they didn’t end up together.

My Passion for Greek Mythology

Ever since I was a little girl, I always enjoyed the Greek Mythology. Maybe because of the idea of powers.

Aphrodite was my first favorite because she’s the supposed to be the most beautiful of all.

Then Athena, God of Battle Strategy and Wisdom.

And last is Artemis, God of because she’s also known as Diana, and my name is Dianne. Then I encountered the star and Queen Cassiopeia and the rest was history.

I always loved the Greek Mythology especially part in the story of Helen of Troy. I sympathise so much with Hector and Paris’s father. His people have lost everything to Agamemnon just because of Helen, the face that sailed a thousand ships as the movie would say.

My next favorite story was somehow in my memory. I hated every way Hades was portrayed in several Greek Mythology movies or series because they always make him the villain, when he isn’t really. But, I love Hades and Persephone’s story.

I thought it was romantic maybe because I also thought of Persephone as a mortal and it’s big deal to be notice by a God. Their story was even in my literature book. I think what I read or remembered is the different version. In my mind, that was always the version.

The story I know is that Hades was wooing Persephone and he took her to the Underworld, but she wasn’t aware that she’s the Lord or God of the Underworld. And that he tricked her into eating the Pomegranate seeds which is why she needed to stay there as his wife for four months and go back to her mother and stay with her for eight months.

I only realized the correct version when I decided to read it again in College from this old book in our home. I don’t know who owns it. It’s just in our shelves. Well here’s the original version so far. It’s the same story but longer version in my book.

The myth of Hades and Persephone also has a different version; in this one Demeter was present when Persephone was kidnapped by God Hades but was tricked by Zeus and Hades.

That morning when Demeter descended on Earth with her daughter Persephone , she left her to play with the sea nymphs called Nereids and the Naiads who were the freshwater nymphs of the lakes, springs and rivers.

Demeter went to supervise her bountiful crops. As Persephone engaged in play and with the rest of the group, her attention fell upon the potently fragrant valley nearby and she couldn’t take her eyes of the yellow flower narcissus. She called upon her playmates to accompany her, but they couldn’t possibly go with her as leaving the side of their water bodies would result in their death.

The flower Narcissus was planted there by Gaia, who was following the orders of Zeus. The goal was to enchant Persephone and attract her, away from her guides.

The flower Narcissus was planted there by Gaia, who was following the orders of Zeus. The goal was to enchant Persephone and attract her, away from her guides.

So, Persephone danced her way to the garden alone and tried to pluck the narcissus from the bosom of Gaia. It drained her energies as the narcissus only came out after a lot of pulling. But suddenly, to her utter fright, she saw the tiny hole from which she had drawn out the flower shaft, began to rapid grow in size until it started to resemble a mighty enormous chasm.

From this came the vigorous galloping sounds of multiple horses and such sudden happenings only froze the frail beauty to her feet. Out of all her friends only the naiad Cyane tried to rescue the crying Persephone but she was no match for the powerful Hades. Bereaving her friend’s kidnap, Cyane melted into a pool of tears and formed the river Cyane at the spot.

Persephone’s mother, Demeter, begged her brother Hades to allow Persephone to come back to the livings, denoting that the young Persephone was not supposed to live in the underworld. Hades consulted with Zeus and they both decided to allow Persephone to live on earth for six months each year, while the rest of the time she would be on his side in the Underworld.

Before leaving the underworld, Persephone had been persuaded to eat four seeds of a pomegranate. In ancient mythology, to eat the fruit of one’s captor meant that one would have to return to that captor or country, so Persephone was doomed to return to the underworld for four months of the year. But she was allowed to spend the remaining two-thirds of the year with her Earth Mother, Demeter.

The myth of Hades and Persephone is associated with the coming of Spring and Winter: When Persephone comes to the Earth, it’s springtime. When she descends to Hades, it is winter.

If you want to know more about the Myth just click the link above.

Here’s another good story and more information about Hades and Persephone.

I also grew up watching the series Hercules, and Xena, the Warrior Princess. I always loved Xena’s technique where she will hit something in the neck, the person will have a hard time breathing then eventually die. If he answers her questions, she’ll have to hit him again so he can breath again.

Fast forward to now, I forgot my passion for Greek Mythology, because I went to College and focused on my career, and my dreams.

Then I saw Hades again in Once Upon A Time and remembered how much I liked his and Persephone’s story and it made me re-read every Greek Mythology book and literature in my Grandfather’s house. My passion for Greek Mythology is back with a vengeance.

And last, but not the least, I just saw the movie, Wonder Woman. I just love her back story, how she became who she was. I love the fighting stunts. Damn, the amazon casts we’re all amazing. And I just love the epic God to God battle with Ares. It doesn’t disappointment.

I especially love how the theme of the movie focused on love and what the mortal or immortal believed in.

The Music In Me

Singing is always been my first love before writing and before studying human behavior or psychology, the psychology of love, dancing, and last but not the least playing the piano.  

So when I found out my mom enrolled me to take piano lessons, I was so angry. Because the time I gave to  the piano was supposed to be for singing. 

As time goes by, deep inside me, it grew on me too. 

Even if I did stop taking lessons, I promised myself that I will still play so what I know and the skill will never go to waste. 

1st pic is my attendance card for my piano lessons in Yamaha School of Music, 2nd is music sheet of Sonatina in C Major Op. 36 Mov. 1, 3rd is my Sonatina Clementi book, and our piano Rubenstein. The 1st pic in the wall is my ballet recital, and the 2nd pic is when I took my first communion. 

I will never love piano like singing, but it’s still an important part of my life and such an important skill. And last but not the least, my parents paid for the lessons for five years. 

The favorite piece I love to play is Sonatina in C Major Op. 36 movement 1-4 by Clementi. I’ve been missing playing it in Sta. Rosa last year so I listen to it everyday and imagining myself playing it. 

When I started working in Sta.Rosa Laguna in August 2016 to April 2017, due to preparing medications, my right hand developed a disease called Tenosynovitis

Tenosynovitis is the inflammation of the fluid-filled sheath (called the synovium) that surrounds a tendon. Symptoms of tenosynovitis include pain, swelling and difficulty moving the particular joint where the inflammation occurs.

In 15 days, we work for 13 days and earns less than a hundred dollars for two weeks and we don’t have an HMO card. What I’m earning is not enough to shoulder my medical bills. 

It’s really disappointing because I’m learning to play a new song called Wicked Always Wins by Rebecca Mader. 

In January, I decided to give it a break, thinking my hand will heal itself, but I was wrong especially when I started working at the Medical Records. 

I found out since April that I can’t carry much heavier objects like I used to, I can’t write properly, and I can’t play the piano effectively like I used to. It’s very frustrating!  It’s like my ability to play regressed in 3 years.  I couldn’t even finish playing 8 bars without my hand hurting and stiffening. 

Here’s to hoping I won’t need surgery, but I’m willing to do everything it takes to restore my hand’s function to its former state. 

The Three People We Will Fall In Love With For A Reason

Some time seven years ago, my best friend showed me something that talks about The Three People You Will Meet in Life. This was theorized by human behavior experts.

 

About a few days ago, I encountered something almost the same, but it was called and described differently.
It was We Only Fall In Love with 3 People in Our Lifetime – For A Specific Reason. Now this one came from philosophers.

idealistic loveFirst person, is your first true love. It is also called the idealistic love. You view love as black and white, no gray areas. It relies on how you see love is, but not so much on how you feel. This is where you will experience love the first time and be clueless about it. Which is why it’s not going to work out.

 

hard loveSecond person, is the you love the most. It is also called the hard love. This is where you learn about the gray areas.

It is also the most important experience anyone can’t miss because it’s the coming of age romance. It doesn’t matter what your age is, but this is where things get real.

The guy you will meet, will mark a before and after in your life. He will revolutionized your world in a second and teach you to see and feel things differently. This relationship creates resonance that triggers transformation. 

He will make you see your strengths and weaknesses, your flaws, imperfections, eccentricities, and most important of all your talents, and capabilities. You will believe your destined to be together, but this guy is not for you.

He is just an angel passing by you.

Just as Lang Leav said, “You may grow to love this person, but remember they are not yours to keep. Their purpose isnt to save you, but to show you how to save yourself.” – Angels

right loveThird person, is the right one for you. He’s not the one you love the most, and he’s not the one who loves you the most. He is the one who happens to be at the right place and time.

I call this third person, the right love. You will find each other when you least expect it. You will connect as a surprise,  and you’ll both know that you two just fit.

You will have just the right combination of personality,  and, strengths and weaknesses. Your similarities and differences,  will complement each other naturally.

It’s as if your soul just know and recognize each other. The moment you found each other, things just fall into place.

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I know that the second person, sounds more appealing, but when you meet the third person, you’ll know and feel why it never work out with the second person. 

You might think that you might love the second person more than the third person. But you see the love you will have for the third person will grow with time. 

That love will grow as the trust, intimacy, familiarity, the more you get along, the deeper your connection will get, you will both revolutionize each other’s world, and that love will transform both of you. It will both give you resonance that will awaken you, enliven, and resonance that will bring you home. 

The love you’ll have with the third person is just the right amount of companionate love, and passionate love, for it to become an eternal love. 

Here comes the tricky part.

The supposedly three people is sometimes three different people, but sometimes they could be one person.  Sometimes the first and second person, could be one person. And sometimes the second and third person is the same. Because some people meet again after so many years.

This is one of the things that we have in real life that TV shows, and some movies fail to show.

What we see on onscreen is all about chemistry, and compatibility. Some writers forget about complementing the right combination of opposite attracts and similarities and more.

Another predicament here is some people gets stuck on the second person. It’s because they really thought they’re meant for each other.

It’s only until they realized their pattern of dating people will they ever get to the third person.

Once Upon A Musical: The Song In Your Heart

When it comes to musical, it is my happy place.


So when I heard that Once Upon A Time is going to have a musical episode, I was estatic.

After all, I’ve been wishing for a musical episode since Season 3, when the Wicked Witch of the West joined the series. Yes, because of the Wicked Musical.

Of all the series whose characters should burst into a song when the emotion calls for it, of course, it should be Once Upon A Time.

Considering their characters are from a musical disney movies and with the exception of Zelena.

And now that the episode had finally aired, Oh, they didn’t disappoint.

The songs in the episodewere written by Alan Zachary and Michael Weiner.

(1)Powerful Magic appealed to me because I love how they adapted the original with a bird singing with Snow White. I already knew about Josh Dallas’ impressive voice, but I was surprised of Ginnifer Goodwin’s voice. I love how she sounds a lot and that she sings exactly the way she talks.

(2) Then the Evil Queen’s song, “Love Doesn’t Stand A Chance. Lana Parrilla’s voice may not be like Goodwin and Dallas, but she totally rocked the song by visiting different characters and destroying their happy moments. The musical arrangement matches her personality. Best part of the song is her dancing. I have to admit that sometimes I miss the evil queen because I’ve loved and rooted for her happiness. I love how strong she was, and how she redeemed herself.

(3) Zelena’s Wicked Always Wins wins top performance for me. The lyrics is catchy, sassy, and wicked as Zelena is and the musical arrangement of the song is so Zelena. Rebecca Mader nailed the Wicked Witch of the West, the emotions, and the story of the song. Some people may say it’s not Defying Gravity but, she didn’t just enjoy doing the song, she did it with the kind of passion and enthusiasm  that is needed in broadway acting. And that’s one of the important things in doing a musical. It’s not noticeable, but I’ve noticed the similarities from the Wicked Musical.

(4) Hook (Colin O’Donoghue) is also accurate to the character, and the lyrics is dark. I was expecting his voice or act to be psychopathic like. You know, a man with a thirst for vengeance, but he still did great job with a song. His voice got potential. I love fight stunts and the choreography. The lyrics wordy creative. I have to admit that I’m not a big fan of Hook, but I love how he changed his ways for Emma. I admire and appreciate what relationship he’s got with Emma especially what they’ve gone through.

(5) Emma’s Theme, you will hear it from the flashback. Showing us how young Emma already have the song in her heart to defeat the dark fairy. The theme is beautiful, meaningful, powerful, and haunting in a good way. Maybe because it’s also the main theme of the show. Just like in other musicals, for me, Emma’s theme, this song in her heart is a foreshadow of what she have to defeat the black fairy. Jennifer Morrison’s voice is pleasant to hear. Her head tone is amazing.

(6) The Happy Beginning is the last song. With the final battle brewing, the last song is a good reminder of hope, and what the show is been showing and telling the audience since season 1. How good triumphs over evil. I wish they invited other people they encountered from other realms, but of course I understand why they didn’t. I also wish the cast danced with the dancers in this song even with just a simple choreography.

I’d say that the musical is a gift to the fans. And it was a great gift because once the season 6 ends, there’s going to be major changes in the show and we’ll be saying goodbye to Emma, Snow White, and Prince Charming.

I’m so grateful, I’d got to enjoy the series and especially the musical episode.

I wish that there’s going to be a Season 7 and that Zelena will still be there. I’m also hoping to watch other disney stories and other untold stories we grew up watching.

So to those who haven’t seen the musical episode, see it with an open mind. Bearing in mind that a musical is about telling the story and not about how great their voice is. Of course, people in musicals have admirable vocal prowess as my mentor calls it, it’s because they’ve been singing for years.

Of all the musicals done by series, this one will certainly give you a disney feel and the lyrics for the characters are very well written. So congratulations to the cast, staff, and crew for a a job well done.

Relationship Analysis : Zelena & Hades Ship from OUAT

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Once Upon a Time is an American fairy tale television series that premiered on October 23, 2011, on ABC. The show takes place in the fictional seaside town of Storybrooke, Maine, whose residents are characters from various fairy tales transported to the “real world” town and robbed of their real memories by a powerful curse. It follows the heroine Emma Swan as she protects the town and its inhabitants from various curses and villains, sometimes involving traveling to other realms. Most episodes involve flashbacks telling its numerous characters’ stories. The show airs Sundays at 8:00 pm ET/7:00 pm CT.

It borrows elements and characters from the Disney-franchise and popular Western literature, folklore, and fairy tales. Once Upon a Time was created by Lost and Tron: Legacy writers Edward Kitsis and Adam Horowitz.

Back in elementary, the two stories I can’t forget from the classical Greek mythology are Helen of Troy, and Hades and Persephone’s story. I know it’s unfair of Hades to do what he did to Persephone, but it was romantic. To me Persephone was just a mere mortal, but she isn’t. 

Please forgive me then, I was just a child. I honestly don’t know what I was thinking back then. So imagine my surprise when Hades showed up in OUAT.

So I am going to write about the characters Zelena and Hades. This is also unusual because it’s a love affair between supposedly villains who belonged in different stories or realms.

When I first saw Hades in OUAT, I hoped that the writers would somehow follow the Mythology at some point, show the audience Hades’ true nature. But he is obviously a villain since episode 1.

And then I saw the drawing of him and Zelena together, I didn’t like it. Zelena is already a villain in OUAT, and I wanted her badly to patch things up with Regina, and another reason I didn’t like it because Hades is portrayed in several movies,  and even games as a villain. That’s just lazy and mediocre writing. They do it over and over again. 

In the original Greek Mythology,  Hades, God of the Underworld. He is not trying to  overthrow Zeus from the Olymphus. He is a stern God and he strives for balance in life and in death. He gets mad when people escaped the Underworld while other souls pay for their sins

Then again, I can’t believe I’m posting this only now, instead of last year.

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Zelena, the Wicked Witch of the West, is the daughter of Cora Mills. She was born with magical powers. She was abandoned by her mother so she could marry royalty. On that day, she conjured a hurricane that brought her to Oz. She was adopted by a couple. Her adoptive mother loved her, but her adoptive father verbally and physically abused her because of her powers. She grew up Wicked because of what was done to her and plotting her whole life vengeance against her sister, Regina. Whom she believed got everything; parents, the kingdom, and even the teacher. Zelena is introverted, clever, persistent, vindictive, powerful, manipulative, confident, cunning, decisive, independent, and has a very strong personality. Zelena is played by actress, Rebecca Mader.

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Hades, King or Lord of the Underworld. He grew up with his brother Zeus, heir of the Olympus. As time passes, his jealousy over his brother had grown too which led him to kill his Father Kronus, and stole the Olympian Crystal. Zeus stopped Hades heart to keep him in the Underworld as its ruler and snap the Olympian Crystal into two for he knows he won’t be able to repair it without his full power. The only way he can restart his heart is by a true love’s kiss. Hades is extroverted, straight forward, confident, self-assured, arrogant, cunning, vindictive, manipulative, persistent, decisive, and also romantic. He knows who he is, he knows what he wants, and he won’t stop at nothing until he gets it. Hades is played by actor, Greg Germann.
Was It Love At First Sight? 

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Unfortunately, it wasn’t. Hades approached Zelena because she’s got potential to be his ally. He approached her because she was trying to break the laws of magic, and achieve a time travel spell, which is a big deal of magic. He saw potential in making her his partner in crime.

Sure, they both could have found each other to be attractive, but they only did during the 3rd flashback, Almost kiss and bike scene. It was unexpected for both of them, but the sparks were real.

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Hades found Zelena powerful,  brilliantly wicked, witty or clever, and beautiful. Take note that he said that after the 3rd flashback, as if he was like a school boy having his first crush. He realized she could be more, she could break the curse. In his mind, they want the same thing after all.

With Zelena, she could have found him attractive because in a way he is like that too. She could have found him handsome, charming, suave, dashing, confident, cool, collected and romantic. Just like Rebecca Mader said in her interview, no one has ever done like that for Zelena before.

Was there chemistry? 

Somehow I believed there was Intellectual chemistry because Zelena can actually match his wit. They are both good in manipulating people and they enjoy plotting ways to achieve their goals.

At the same time, there was also Camarederie chemistry, they almost have similar childhood backgrounds that made them kindred souls and helped them identify and relate more with each other.

Their past experiences are almost the same, they felt and reacted to the situation the same way, and they want the same thing.

“Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

They get what each other suffered, what they felt, and the result was they have the tendency to root for each other. Which is why they have the empowerment chemistry. They made each other feel as if they could do everything in the world. They pretty well know each other’s capability, strengths, and weaknesses. They accept each other for who they are and supports each other. I mean who doesn’t want to be with that kind of person, right?

There was also Sexual chemistry. Every time you watch them interact, you can just see, and feel the chemistry between them. It just sizzles.

Is the devil flirting with me?
Yes, he really was because he does have an agenda.

Another reason for their chemistry is also because of their proximity to each other and tension between them. The air becomes thick, you could feel the heat in your face. Their breathing becomes labored.

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In the rules of personal space, when someone trespasses your personal space, you become flustered, vulnerable and boundaries are broken. Which led to the part when Zelena sat in front of Hades and he felt his heart fluttered for a moment. That was real, but that was love starting to blossom.

The bicycle ride was truly a care free, vulnerable, and fun moment for the two of them.

Thanks to the on and off screen insane chemistry between the actors Rebecca Mader, and Greg Germann. Just like I said, when you’re a director and you have actors with chemistry like that in your hands, it just opens so many possibilities, and potential for a great romance. It’s as if you could get away with anything. And hell they did. 

I don’t want to say this, but yes there was also romantic chemistry. It was just starting to bloom.

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Romance took seed between them for just a little bit because of the emotional intimacy. It is when they shared confidences.

It happened on the 2nd flashback, when Hades reminded Zelena’s past to her and then he shared what his brother did to him.

 

There was also a moment of intimacy on the present day, where Zelena and Hades met by the clock tower. It is when he revealed that he still loves her after all these years, that he was trying to get her baby for her, and when he told her, he made her own Storybrooke. That it was their decay. He basically changed his kingdom for her. He revealed it with the risk of getting rejected again.

I believe he doesn’t need the baby because he’s got the Olympian Crystal to defeat his brother.

In the Principle of Completion, it was a symbiotic relationship for both of them. You see, Hades fell for Zelena because of the way she made him feel. Even though he’s got nefarious plans when it came to her, and the heroes, he couldn’t control what he felt for her. She believed that he’s capable of love, she wanted his plans to come true, she wanted him to succeed, and she wanted to share her life with him despite having trust issues. And somehow, she brought back the notion of love, fun, hope, and innocence to him.

As for Zelena, it was the same thing. He valued her strengths, he accepted her for she is, he wanted to help make her plans come true, and last but not the least he appreciated her inside and out.

They complement each other so well, they could satisfy each other so well, and they could benefit from each other. The combination of them together is too powerful to ignore.

When it comes to their Lovemap, Zelena and Hades are practically have matching lovemaps. Due to their similar nature and personalities, experiences, motivations, and upbringing. That was when they first met.

Zelena’s  lovemap changed along the way, when her baby was born, and when she gained her mother and Regina. So when she met Hades again, she’s completely a different person.

As for Hades lovemap, for a God, he never felt it before, but when Zelena came to his life. Yes, it was in his best in interest, but he tailored his wants and his life to her. He considered staying in Oz and that he doesn’t care about his plans anymore and all he wants is her. He may have been faking it, but that was his view of love before.

Zelena told him, “If you did (love me), you wouldn’t take my best chance for revenge.

When you love someone, you will teach them what’s right, and prevent them from doing something wrong.

Several years later and they met again.

Hades adapted his lovemap again to Zelena. Zelena wanted revenge before, so this time he changed his tune, “What better revenge than having it all?

Why are they drawn to each other? 

The reason why they are drawn to each other is also the reason why it could never work between them. Unless, they truly work things. I don’t say this lightly, just because I’m being optimistic or because I’m a shipper of theirs. Couples like that in real life can truly work it out. People are drawn to people who is familiar with them.

Zelena and Hades are drawn to each other because they have a similar past. When a person finds someone familiar, it’s easy to get them, to understand them, and to fall in love with them.

As for Zelena and Hades’ case, they want to have it all. Hades knows that Zelena never felt love. So he knew exactly what to do to reel her in.When Zelena finally gave him a chance to be with her. In a way, Zelena had also have him wrapped around her finger a bit.

Hades knew that Zelena is already torn apart. But even that was the case, he was still confident and believed that Zelena loves him. Because if at some point, he believes it wasn’t real. Then Zelena would have never restarted his heart and he would have taken Gold’s deal to make sure he survives. But he trusted Zelena with his everything. He was compliant because she gave him a chance, she defended him, she fought for him.
Teaching someone or yourself to love someone that’s easy, but to make someone fall in love with you. As in make him or her your true love, that’s hard. Unless she was in the position to fall in love, which she was.

Other fans had theorized that Zelena is somehow, OUAT version of Persephone. I don’t know what the writers are thinking, but it could have been. Zelena maybe the Wicked Witch of the West, but she’s got innocence in her.

When it comes to Hades, Zelena is so naive. When it comes to love, she’s very clueless because she never felt it before. I hope in a way she is because I don’t want to see another woman pair up with Hades, but only Zelena.

Another comparison with Persephone is Hades also betrayed Zelena by setting up Hook and Emma from getting the ambrosia, and trapping the heroes: David, Robin, Henry, and Regina at the library.

The famous version of Hades & Persephone’s story is that after Hades kidnapped Persephone at the Underworld, Demeter asked Zeus for help. But the unfamous original story of Hades and Persephone is that after Hades fell for her, Hades told Zeus that secret. Zeus actually helped Hades plan to trap Persephone and pull her to the Underworld. 

Persephone ate the pomegrate seeds without knowing what it means. She was sad at first, but she grew to love Hades and eventually became happy again. 

I’m actually torned because in the Musical, I shipped the Wicked Witch of the West with Fiyero, but in OUAT, I totally shipped Zelena and Hades.
Zelena grew up into a strong, wicked, beautiful, formidable woman, but she’s also a child who never felt love her entire life, she’s got trust and abandonment issues just like any other kids in her situation. She may be the eldest daughter, but whenever I watch the show, Regina acted more mature and wise. Because she’s got her parents, Daniel, then Robin’s love, Henry, and her friends love and support.

Love bloomed between them right away but Zelena protected herself the first time Hades confessed his love to her.

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I do believe his heart fluttered.

He may have felt true love for Zelena, but it wasn’t enough. And besides, he doesn’t even know how to love.

Zelena was used to people hating her, and not choosing her. It’s hard for her to believe that someone could ever love her.

In fact it speaks true to Elphaba’s song in the Musical version of Wicked, “As Long As Your Mine”.

“Kiss me so fiercely, hold me too tight.

I need help believing your with me tonight.

My aimless dreaming could not foresee, lying beside you, with you wanting me.”

Another influence on Zelena is Belle. Zelena hesitated running to Hades with open arms because she might end up just like Belle. But Belle is also right, she’s afraid. She’s not afraid of Hades, she’s afraid to be rejected again, to get her hopes up, and to be left again.

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In addition to this, another event that influenced Zelena is when Cora returned Regina and Zelena memories to patched their relationship.

Regina and Zelena now have a little better sisterly relationship. Ever since Hades showed up in Zelena’s life again, she’s been in a roller coaster of emotions because it concerned so many people.

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When Regina supported Zelena in going to Hades, to find another love. It was sweet. In that moment, she truly gained her sister back, and somehow Regina is slowly beginning to trust her.

Did Love grew between them?

With Zelena:

(1) In the 3rd flashback, the almost kiss and bike ride scene, Zelena found herself enjoying a different company compared to what she’s used to. She enjoyed Hades company and undivided attention to her. He believed in her, and he encouraged her. Even Zelena admitted that she felt something for him even though it was too early to say it was love. At least she still have her con hat on.

(2) Meeting Hades again by the clock tower. She was in the position to fall deeper for him because she was vulnerable and confused. She was vulnerable because she thought that Hades is after her baby for his time travel spell. This is a big reveal of Hades devotion and commitment to win her because she also found he made her dreams come true, almost because he created Zelena, her own Storybrooke, he tortured Cora to get Zelena’s birthday, and last, but not the least is he told her he would still wait for her when she’s ready.

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(3) When Hades took care of Zelena’s enemy, Dorothy, even when she didn’t even ask him too. He made an effort without her asking for it. And with Belle’s encouragement to try to find out if it’s going to work somehow gave Zelena a different perspective.

With Hades:

(1) Same thing with Zelena, the 3rd flashback, almost kiss and bike scene. Yes, Hades was only trying to gain Zelena as a partner, but something unexpected happened. When Zelena sat in front of him, his heart fluttered. And when they got to Dorothy’s location, take note that he started praising her differently compared to the 1st and 2nd flashback.

(2) Now bringing us to the 4th flashback, when he left Zelena at Dorothy’s location to prepare a surprise dinner with her. The first time he confessed his feelings for her. Zelena may have admitted that she felt something, but she’s not ready to trust, and to love. He may have said, Zelena will regret it, but it’s only anger talking. Just like any human being, when they are rejected, they become more motivated.

Dr. Helen Fisher’s research said from her book, Why We Love. As adversity intensifies, so does romantic passion. Adversity heightens passion, romance, and romantic zeal. Adversity stimulates romantic ardour. Adversity heightens pursuit, just as barriers intensify romantic passion. This applies to 3 and 4 below.

(3) Which is why he created the Storybrooke for her and tried to rescue her baby for her.

They may be separated from different realms, but Hades became obsessed with the idea of her and Zelena. His idea of them together, kept him going all those years.

(4) This one applies to Zelena and Hades. What they felt for each other, deepened because they were both in the position to fall in love.

With Hades, Zelena’s life was threatened by Rumple and Peter Pan. Go back to what I mentioned above, this adversity intensified Hades want for Zelena to survive, which also forced his hand to make a deal with Emma.

With Zelena, she became the damsel in distress. In Zelena’s view, Hades didn’t just save her life, he also ripped a contract which goes against his nature, and he tried to work with Emma. That’s a big deal because Emma is the savior even though it’s also a deal.

According to Dr. Helen Fisher, people have the tendency to fall in love when they are vulnerable. This is the hero complex where a person tends to fall for the person who saved them.

(5) Last but not the least, it was even confirmed here that what they had is true love and they genuinely love each other. 

That’s how it became a True Love’s kiss for the both of them.

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Why it didn’t work out between them?

I said before that the reason they were drawn and fell in love with each other is due to their similar backgrounds, worldview, personality, and goals in their life. They are practically mirror image.

When Hades and Zelena met again. So much has changed for Zelena, she’s got a baby, she gained her sister and somehow the heroes on her side, and the most important of all is her closure with her mother. Zelena no longer wants, what Hades wants. There’s already a fall out between them.

At the same time, I believe that Hades truly love Zelena, but his priorities are different from hers. He was still consumed by his vengeance against his brother, Zeus, and the idea to beat the heroes.

Another very sweet moment here is when Regina supported Zelena. I know Regina was trying to be a good sister to her when she said that. But they both just lost their mother, and just recently gained each other as sisters. They were too emotional and vulnerable to make any decision at all. It’s sweet and such a sister thing to do, but Regina shouldn’t have done it.

I actually find the scene very funny when Regina broke the news to Emma, David, and Hook that she supported Zelena to go to Hades. Her face showed that somehow she realized shouldn’t have done it, but she did it because she’s trying to trust Zelena’s judgement and because they are family.

Somehow I knew that the writers won’t make a relationship between Zelena and Hades work because it’s not the right time for them. They are both clueless when it comes to love. They don’t know how to love. Hades may have followed Nicholas Sparks ways from the Notebook in sweeping Zelena off her feet, but it wasn’t enough.

In reality, Love conquers all, if you know and understand how to love, Love is a big deal. Zelena was actually in the right mind when she rejected him the second time around. But Belle truly turned things around for her. Kudos to Belle.

As for me, I truly hope that Hades and Zelena can be together. The writers could have given Hades and not just Zelena to redeem theirselves. I wish the writers went with the original story of Hades eventually. It won’t happen overnight, but I’m willing to wait. They can still be together. After all, people who die in OUAT always have a way of coming back. I love Fiyero, but I’m sticking with Hades here. I wish the writers had done more by making their personality complement each other, and not just by their similarities. And I hate that the writers made Hades not good enough for Zelena. 

I have a theory that since the final battle is coming, maybe the writers don’t know for sure if they’re going to get renewed. They did said from their interview that they were wrapping all the stories of the characters. So they’re actually doing the fans a favor. It’s just a theory though.

So they’ve finished Hades story right away by killing him. Besides he’s not even a main character, he’s just a guest. If they could make the Evil Queen, Hook, and more good, they could make Hades good too. Just like they wrapped Liam’s story, Gaston’s, Regina’s father, Cora’s, Zelena which she somehow achieved since little Robyn was born, and up to the part when Hades accidentally brought them to the Underworld, and more.

Of all the relationship analysis I’ve written, the characters (Zelena and Hades) and the actors (Rebecca Mader and Greg Germann), are so far the one with the most insane chemistry. I can’t believe they topped my Tauriel and Kili from The Hobbit.

I didn’t want to be believe that Hades is dead for good. Most importantly,  I don’t want to believe that Hades never loved and appreciated Zelena. But it makes me wonder, because according to the qoute from the classical Greek mythology,

“Gods live their own lives apart from men, free of sickness, pain, and of course death.

Only through a God’s attachment to some mortal does he know true suffering.

So what about Hades? Was he ever attached to Zelena. Cause if he was, he was truly capable of giving up all his plans for her. But he didn’t.

And what about Zelena, was she somehow attached Hades too? I honestly have no idea how to answer this. Then again he’s her first love and first love never dies after all. What she needs to do is learn to love herself, and be the best she could for her baby. 

How I Pursued Psych On My Own

Wondering how I started studying Psychology, somehow amazes me and I also find it unbelievable.

I have a long way to go, but somehow, I’ve come so far.

My fascination with Psychopaths started in my Sophomore year after seeing a documentary about them. Then again, I always enjoyed watching Thriller movies with serial killers. While I am fascinated by them, I stand 50/50 on whether I want to meet one, and the other 50 is I want to study them.

So I started studying them and watching everything with them, and plan to buy every novel with characters like them.

I have encyclopedias at home, from where I got my first read about Psychology.  They delved on child development. A topic I visited twice in college as a nurse, and I borrowed in several  library Psychology and Psychiatry books.

One very important and memorable time of my life is when I’m in my Aunt’s house. We were in her room. I was at the top of the double deck bed and she was below. She asked me, what I wanted to take in College. And I told her loud and clear that I wanted to become a Psychologist. She just told me she doesn’t want me to take care of mentally ill people. I shouldn’t have listened to her and just pursued what I love and wanted instead.

Then I got into college, we have a Psychology a lot.

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Of course, we also have Sociology and Anthropology subjects, different forms of Psychology.

 

For the last 16 years these are ome of the books I read regarding them.

I bought most of them in book sales and some of them from National Bookstore, Fully Booked, Powerbooks, and Amazon, the electronic books I have.

The first 2 were from my bestfriend in College, the mind control method is something I bought in highschool.

There’s my books in College below. My Psychology book was borrowed.

The Beauty Killer novels by Chelsea Cain are one of my favorites.

Of course, we know that Mulder is a popular or known Oxford Psychologist. My fascination in studying profiling and psychology also came from him.

My interest in Profiling was also influenced by Criminal Minds.

I know the novel Psychopath doesn’t belong with the group, but somehow it fits. Because I first heard about Lovemap from this novel. I learned several psych insights from this novel that I bought and search the other novels by Keith Ablow, a forensic psychiatrist.

From some of the books I borrowed in our library, below is an example of some topics I photocopied for studying.

This is from the book, Psychiaty Case Files. There’s another example of that picture below.

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Today is my birthday. And instead of celebrating my birthday. I want to celebrate what I love instead, which is to become a Psychologist.

That’s not all cause it doesn’t include all the books I borrowed in our library and the electronic books I bought in Amazon and from Scribd.

Significance of Commitment

What does it mean to be committed in a romantic relationship?

commitmentThere are many definitions for commitment and below is one.

imagesA Committed Relationship is an interpersonal relationship based upon a mutually agreed-upon commitment to one another involving exclusivity, love, trust, honesty, openness, or some other agreed-upon behavior.

I want to emphasize the words:

Exclusivity

Love is an emotion, a feeling. But when it comes to commitment it is a choice. A choice on who to settle with,

Trust

Honesty in Commitment is being transparent with each other. A matter of self disclosure, but it depends on the couple and it depends on the type of rerelationship.

Openness to each other is being able to listen, accept, and respect each other’s differing opinions, point of view, and eccentricity.

Behavior Agreed On – In a relationship, there are certain behaviors or attitudes we won’t agree or tolerate. We won’t change their personality, but just like in raising a child, we ignore or discourage the wrongful actions, and we award or acknowledge the right ones.

Commitment means differently with couples who are dating, being in a relationship, engaged, married, and are living together.

  1. Dating – You can be exclusive or you are both free to see other people. At this time, the couple is just getting to know each other and are adjusting to each other’s differences, and similarities. The tolerance is very high because it’s new and there’s a flood of endorphins that makes us happy, and serotonin that makes us think of them all the time. Until those chemicals are replaced by attachment and bonding hormones.
  2. Being in a relationship – It depends on the type of relationship you have. In this relationship the couple involved have personal and emotional intimacy, friendship, and familiarity, and the commitment to each other or more. It’s a case to case basis because the arrangement depends on the couple.

  3. Engaged – Promised to be married in a later or future date. The couple here had dated for years and are now ready to spend their lives together under the same roof. The relationship is exclusive and he or she should not see or date anyone else.

  4. Married – The couple at this point had compromised some things in their life to make the relationship work and keep it. The couple is now ready to take the next level which is to start a new family, provided they are already financially established, and both can now provide for their future children.

  5. Common Law Marriage – Also known as couples who had lived together. Apparently there are two kinds of couples here. They have the same benefits of a marriage couple, but some couples are living together but have a different type or arrangement in a relationship.

a) Couple who are just trying if a relationship between each other will work for them.

b) Couple are ready to take the next level, but have decided to wait to save money.

Before making a commitment, a couple needs to know what is a commitment and what it is to them. Because along those commitment are choices that they are willing to make, to make the commitment, and to keep it for a long time.

downloadYou also need to define the commitment.

Are you just curious to be in a relationship?

Is it Casual?

Are you committed?

You also need to ask yourself.

Is he capable of giving you what you want in a relationship?

Is he the person you want to get involve with or be with for the rest of your life?

Do you share similar expectations for the relationship?

Are you currently involved with someone who has the potential to be a healthy partner?

When a person can’t commit, it could be because:

  • He is not ready to be committed
  • He hasn’t found the person he can see himself with for a long time

  • His fear of commitment or his problem comitting might come from a bad experience or from his parents and/ or upbringing

  • In a relationship there are two definitions of commitment that are important and helps in making a couple make the commitment and keep it. Your definition and his definition. If that definition doesn’t match, then there’s going to be a problem.

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    If a couple makes a commitment, they are sacrificing something, but are also gaining something.

    You will both promise to do everything in your power to make it work and not just end up like the other couples on TV who cheated, who got divorced or annulled.

    I have nothing against them, getting divorced or annulled should never be an option when you get married.

    A couple before getting into a serious relationship or in a committed relationship, they should consider that you will both undergo changes in life and you can bet that both of you will grow and mature, but you can also change for the worst. The couple needs to be ready for those changes, and to battle the problems together that will come along the way. You don’t fix that by texting or calling. Do that face to face to prevent more misunderstandings.

    Those unmatched qualities or differences that attracted you in the beginning of your relationship can also be the reason for both of you to push each other to change or mold them into someone you want or imagined them to be. That is a big No.  That is why from the start, you don’t get married because you are meant to be, because you have chemistry, but because the qualities and personalities you have is a right balance of like attract likes and opposite qualities. You get married because they make you feel complete.

    Their set of qualities, differences, and personality, balances or completes your set of qualities, differences, and personality.

    In a commitment, you trust each other to be loyal, faithful, honest, and to both work hard on making and keeping the commitment last.

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    Furthermore, communication plays a big role in commitments. You need to communicate the definition or status of your relationship, and where and what is your take in your relationship and commitment with him.

    If everything is clear between the two of you, then heartaches, disappointments, wasted feelings, and wasted time can be prevented.

     

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    A couple is expected to build a mature relationship through commitment. If you can’t commit, you shouldn’t be in a relationship.

     

     

     

     

     

    A committed relationship is:

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    A relationship is about your commitment to each other, while you consider each other’s welfare.

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    See some more quotes about relationship commitment below:

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