What does it mean to be committed in a romantic relationship?
There are many definitions for commitment and below is one.
A Committed Relationship is an interpersonal relationship based upon a mutually agreed-upon commitment to one another involving exclusivity, love, trust, honesty, openness, or some other agreed-upon behavior.
I want to emphasize the words:
Love is an emotion, a feeling. But when it comes to commitment it is a choice. A choice on who to settle with, who to spend the rest of your life with.
Honesty in Commitment is being transparent with each other. A matter of self disclosure, but it depends on the couple and it depends on the type of relationship.
Openness to each other is being able to listen, accept, and respect each other’s differing opinions, point of view, and eccentricity.
Behavior Agreed On – In a relationship, there are certain behaviors or attitudes we won’t agree or tolerate. We won’t change their personality, but just like in raising a child, we ignore or discourage the wrongful actions, and we award or acknowledge the right ones.
Commitment means differently with couples who are dating, being in a relationship, engaged, married, and are living together.
- Dating – You can be exclusive or you are both free to see other people. At this time, the couple is just getting to know each other and are adjusting to each other’s differences, and similarities. The tolerance is very high because it’s new and there’s a flood of endorphins that makes us happy, and serotonin that makes us think of them all the time. Until those chemicals are replaced by attachment and bonding hormones.
Being in a relationship – It depends on the type of relationship you have. In this relationship the couple involved have personal and emotional intimacy, friendship, and familiarity, and the commitment to each other or more. It’s a case to case basis because the arrangement depends on the couple.
Engaged – Promised to be married in a later or future date. The couple here had dated for years and are now ready to spend their lives together under the same roof. The relationship is exclusive and he or she should not see or date anyone else.
Married – The couple at this point had compromised some things in their life to make the relationship work and keep it. The couple is now ready to take the next level which is to start a new family, provided they are already financially established, and both can now provide for their future children.
Common Law Marriage – Also known as couples who had lived together. Apparently there are two kinds of couples here. They have the same benefits of a marriage couple, but some couples are living together but have a different type or arrangement in a relationship.
a) Couple who are just trying if a relationship between each other will work for them.
b) Couple are ready to take the next level, but have decided to wait to save money.
Before making a commitment, a couple needs to know what is a commitment and what it is to them. Because along those commitment are choices that they are willing to make, to make the commitment, and to keep it for a long time.
You also need to define the commitment.
Are you just curious to be in a relationship?
Is it Casual?
Are you committed?
You also need to ask yourself.
Is he capable of giving you what you want in a relationship?
Is he the person you want to get involve with or be with for the rest of your life?
Do you share similar expectations for the relationship? same future goals?
Are you currently involved with someone who has the potential to be a healthy partner?
When a person can’t commit, it could be because:
- He is not ready to be committed
He hasn’t found the person he can see himself with for a long time
His fear of commitment or his problem comitting might come from a bad experience or from his parents and/ or upbringing
In a relationship there are two definitions of commitment that are important and helps in making a couple make the commitment and keep it. Your definition and his definition. If that definition doesn’t match, then there’s going to be a problem.
If a couple makes a commitment, they are sacrificing something, but are also gaining something.
You will both promise to do everything in your power to make it work and not just end up like the other couples on TV who cheated, who got divorced or annulled.
I have nothing against them, getting divorced or annulled, but when you have a relationship, they should never be an option when you get married.
A couple before getting into a serious relationship or in a committed relationship, they should consider that you will both undergo changes in life and you can bet that both of you will grow and mature, but you can also change for the worst. The couple needs to be ready for those changes, and to battle the problems together that will come along the way. You don’t fix that by texting or calling. Do that face to face to prevent more misunderstandings.
Those unmatched qualities or differences that attracted you in the beginning of your relationship can also be the reason for both of you to push each other to change or mold them into someone you want or imagined them to be. That is a big No-no. That is why from the start, you don’t get married because you are meant to be, because you have chemistry, but because the qualities and personalities you have is a right balance of like attract likes and opposite qualities. You get married because they make you feel complete. You get married because you want to see yourself with them after so many years.
Their set of qualities, differences, and personality, balances or completes your set of qualities, differences, and personality.
In a commitment, you trust each other to be loyal, faithful, honest, and to both work hard on making and keeping the commitment last.
Furthermore, communication plays a big role in commitments. You need to communicate the definition or status of your relationship, and where and what is your take in your relationship and commitment with him.
If everything is clear between the two of you, then heartaches, disappointments, wasted feelings, and wasted time can be prevented.
A couple is expected to build a mature relationship through commitment. If you can’t commit, you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
A committed relationship is:
A relationship is about your commitment to each other, while you consider each other’s welfare.
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