Relationship Analysis: Best Of Me

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The Best of Me is an American romantic drama film directed byMichael Hoffman and written by Will Fetters and J. Mills Goodloe, based on Nicholas Sparks’ 2011 novel of the same name. The film stars James Marsden and Michelle Monaghan with Luke Bracey and Liana Liberato.

First, I just need to get this out of my system. What is it with tragic love stories and stars?

I promised you last week that I’m going to write about a movie with a happy ending. Because I’ll admit that I still can’t move on from Tauriel and Kili’s love story. I’m at least glad that there’s closure for both characters in the Best Of Me.

I always love Nicholas Sparks works ever since I read The Wedding. That’s the story that made me buy and read his work, but he broke my heart when he wrote Dear John and I was/ am also brokenhearted so I stayed away from love stories for a while.

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When I saw the Best Of Me novels, I was excited to read it and watch it. Another reason I love Best of Me is because I’ve always loved Liana Liberato and Michelle Monaghan.

The reason I chose it because I’ve always thought it was a happy ending and I’m having a really hard time writing an analysis for the movie I chose for this week.

My analysis for the story is somehow split because I love the chemistry of the adult actors, but I wasn’t feeling it between the younger actors, but it was nice seeing the flashbacks. It gave me insights on their relationship.

In the movie, Amanda is the one with an outgoing, straightforward, kind, and bubbly personality. She’s also determined and passionate for children since she plans to major in child psychology and public policy.

While Dawson is shy, doesn’t know how to talk or flirt with a girl, respectful, hardworking, studious, introverted, passive, abusive upbringing,  and he likes the stars. He shared his interest in the stars when he said that humans have always looked up to the stars for consulting and that he made his own telescope.

With those descriptions between two characters, you can sense right away that they have chemistry. They are a complete opposite of each other and that’s what’s pulling their characters together.

My favorite scene here is when they were talking as adults and Amanda said that it’s dangerous for them then she complained how he didn’t get ugly or something. It was great. I can’t ignore the sizzling tension between the characters.

Friendship, intimacy, and security somehow go hand in hand between Amanda and Dawson because they were able to share parts of their lives right away with each other. On the part where she confronted him for making her wait, showing her his bruises, and getting to know each other in the water tank.

As for love, as time goes by, the friendship grew into something more.

When Dawson got shot, I was shocked, but what made me cry is when he fell, and the last thing he saw were the stars.

It reminded me of their last goodbye ever since their reunion.

One of the things he said:

“I’m gonna trust in the stars,” He said that because he considered their reunion as a second chance for them to fix the things they’ve left behind. It provided closure for both them and declaration of love after all these years. It’s my second favorite scene.

In fact, he was hoping that the universe will realign the stars for them and things will fall into place for them. And when he closed his eyes, he saw Amanda in the garden in Tuck’s house.

In the movie, I don’t remember where Dawson’s mom is, but that’s how lovemap came into play in his life. Somehow Amanda also took cared of him the way a mom should. As for Amanda, she has a privileged upbringing, but when Dawson came into her life, just by existing, he made the best version of herself.

This is an incredible movie because at the same time, they also tried to establish how the characters Amanda and Dawson were fated to each other.

  • First is when they were younger. Amanda asked Tuck if he believes in fate or destiny. Instead, he shared a part of his love story with his wife which says that he believed in coincidences and faith. At that time, Dawson refused to believe any of it.
  • When Dawson had an accident where the explosion threw him in the water, he dreamed of Amanda then after waking up, he got a call about Tuck. That’s what made him believe that somehow it led him to find her again.
  • Due to the hardships and loneliness, Amanda experienced, she became scared and believed that fate and destiny are not real.
  • And when he died, yes, he saw the stars. He closed his eyes, and he saw his dream again in the hospital. And that scene where everything made sense.

I truly believe that there’s an endless love, but unfortunately, it’s not just for the characters somehow. Even if Dawson died, a part of Dawson will somehow always be with Amanda.

It’s still a great movie, with a very interesting twist and I still recommend it.

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Relationship Analysis: Northern Lights

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Northern Lights is a novel by Nora Roberts adapted to a movie in 2007. Nate Burns accepts a job as chief of police in Lunacy, Alaska, hoping to get away from the traumatic death of his partner back in Baltimore. He meets Meg, an independent bush pilot, whose father is found dead in a mountain cave.

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Let me first make a statement that I won’t factor in what probably went on behind the scenes because I don’t want to emphasize  or glamorize it. But it might have/ might not contribute to the relationship of the characters in the movie.

Was it love at first sight?

I haven’t read the book yet, but what a way to build up tension and emotion between the characters. Yes, there’s love at first, and second sight before they finally met. It was captivating and magical to watch.

Is there chemistry between the couple?

There was * sexual chemistry the moment the couple laid eyes on each other and just every time they were together. It was just sizzling between them.

Yes, there’s also * intellectual chemistry with the way the couple engages on their verbal spar.

The actors who played the characters has a great chemistry and compatibility. Those roles were truly made for them. They were perfect for the roles.

Did the couple’s personalities balance, and complete each other and makes them a good team?

Nate seemed to be passive introvert which matches Meg’s extroverted and straightforwardness.

In such a short time, the couple somehow bonded and slowly got to know each other. Their relationship in the movie would seem fast phase, but not necessarily. Instead, their interactions together and working together comes out naturally.  

 

Does the relationship contribute to the growth of each person in the relationship?

Nate and Meg brought out the best in each other. It helps that Meg is so straightforward and she tells him what she thinks of him, she taught him different perspectives, and how things seem to other people’s eyes.

What is the man’s *lovemap? Is it a healthy lovemap or not?

Nate has an unhealthy lovemap due to his past relationship. His ex-wife cheated on him. Aside from that, he’s got an issue because he believes his partner died because of him. It’s normal for him to think that way, but it’s an unhealthy thought because he wasn’t the one who shot his partner.

I did love the part about him where he didn’t flirt with other women, he only did his job, and he only had eyes for Meg. He wasn’t a jerk to the other women on the show, despite them showing interest toward him.

What is the woman’s *lovemap? Is it a healthy lovemap or not?

Meg has an unhealthy lovemap because of her mom’s influence and because she grew up believing that her Dad left them.

While her mom sleeps around and never gets serious with any guy she meets. Meg is scared to fall in love  because she’s afraid that the guy might leave her too.

There’s a scene where she asked her mom, how could she love her Dad, despite everything, but her mom just answered, it was true love and she gave her heart to her Dad. Once you find that kind of love, you never let it go.

Another great scene with her mom is when she asked Meg if she loves Nate, and Meg said yes. Her mom gave her an advice, “Then marry him and hold on to that feeling for the rest of your life. Hold on to it hard.”

And in return, Meg pushed her mom to take a chance on John. A guy who’s always been in love with Meg’s mom.

Despite their issues, finding out Pat’s (Meg’s dad and Charlene’s husband) death, brought closure to Charlene and Meg and helped fix their relationship.

Meg is a commitment phobic and stays away from guys, but she can’t resist Nate’s connection with her. In fact, she’s very selective with her interactions with other guys.

How lovemap plays in the couples’ lives?

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We know that Nate has a healthy lovemap, but he’s got an issue with this past regarding his partner, but Meg told him that he can’t live his life that way, that he can’t run away. She also convinced him to talk to his partner’s ex-wife and when he did, he finally fixed his issue and it let him have a fresh start in his life with her. Meg is a strong force for Nate, she encouraged him to make a decision and to fight hard for what he wants and loves to do in his life.

Now, as for Meg, Nate is a catalyst in her life. Meg has been already a strong and independent woman, but she found a guy who is interested in her, who is concerned for her and her well-being, someone who  can be a source of strength for her and a sounding board for her thoughts, and concerns. He gave her stability, security, and commitment. So he also set her lovemap right. At the same time, he somehow helped heal Charlene and Meg’s relationship.

Here’s a review from someone who have read the book and watched the movie.

Despite what went on behind the scenes, like she said, read the book and watch the movie. It’s a great simple story.

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I Love You Just In A Song

Last year, I was working on a script, and I wrote this song for the band of my character. It’s still a rough draft. It’s also not complete yet.

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I wish that I could carry you in my pocket
Bring you everywhere I go
Sleep with you at night
and hold you close

I wish I could feel your hands every minute of the day
Kiss your doubts and frown away.
I wish I could wrap my arms around you,
Squeeze you tight next to me.
To know you’ll always be there.

I wish I could talk to you all the time,
Tell stories, lash out and play our games,
our jokes, our precious song.

(Chorus):

We could do everything together
We will never get tired of each other.
But if we do, we could go to each side of the room, but still be together

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I wish that I could see into the future
To make sure you will always be there
I wish that we could finally look into each other’s eyes,
held hands and speak our love confession.

I wish that we could read each other’s minds
So we will know how much we think of each other
when we’re apart.

I wish that we could finally say I love you rather sing
I love you just in a song.