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Activity Chemistry is when you want to do particular activities with this person, even if you don’t have much else in common. This is your favorite hiking partner or game buddy.
Chemistry as the emotional and psychological way, the two people relate to each other, especially when experienced as a powerful mutual attraction. Chemistry is the igniter and catalyst of a relationship.
It is also known as Love at first sight. There are various psychological, physical and emotional symptoms of having good chemistry with another person. The nervous system gets aroused, causing one to get an adrenaline in the form of “rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath, and sensations of excitement that are often like sensations associated with danger.” Other physical symptoms include “blood pressure going up a little, the skin flushing, the face and ears turning red and feeling of weakness in the knees”.
Good Chemistry people have a good rapport and they get along easily.
No Chemistry people have a much harder time establishing rapport due to differing styles, habits, and assumptions, these people tend to disrupt what rapport they have.
Bad Chemistry people might drastically do not have rapport. Each person’s behavior triggers conflicting responses in the other.
It is important to learn that chemistry can cause people to act sexually, impulsively or unwisely. It can make otherwise rational people ignore serious problems and issues in an individual and relationship. It often blinds people to warning signs that a person or relationship is not healthy or the right one for them.
There are 8 types of chemistry: Sexual Chemistry, Romantic Chemistry, Emotional Chemistry, Activity Chemistry, Team Performance Chemistry, Creative Chemistry, Intellectual Chemistry, and Empowerment Chemistry.
According to Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., not everyone experiences chemistry. It occurred more often between people who are down-to-earth and sincere. This is because if a person is comfortable with themselves, they are better able to express their true self to the world, which makes it easier to get to know them, even if perspectives on important matters differed. Sharing similarities is also deemed essential to chemistry as “feeling understood is essential to forming relational bonds.”
Coping Mechanism is a way to which external or internal stress is managed, adapted to or acted upon.
Creative Chemistry is when people work well creating together. Examples are synergistic inventors, engineers, programmers, artists, and improv theater groups.
Defense Mechanism an often unconscious mental process (as repression, projection, or sublimation) that makes possible compromise solutions to personal problems.
Denial is the failure to accept something that is true.
Displacement is taking anger or transferring feelings to a safer object, person, or situation.
Dopamine causes extremely focused attention, unwavering motivation and goal-directed behavior.
Experiential Intimacy or Intimacy Activity Examples of this would be where people get together to actively involve themselves with each other, probably saying very little to each other, not sharing any thoughts or many feelings, but being involved in mutual activities with one another. Imagine observing two house painters whose brushstrokes seemed to be playing out a duet on the side of the house. They may be shocked to think that they were engaged in an intimate activity with each other, however from an experiential point of view, they would be very intimately involved. Source
Emotional Chemistry is the kind of emotional rapport you have with people you immediately liked and want to be friends with.
Emotional Intimacy where two persons can comfortably share their feelings with each other or when they empathize with the feelings of the other person, really try to understand and try to be aware of the other person’s emotional side. Source
Empowerment Chemistry is when you interact with someone on this level, the two of you empower each other and help each other develop as human beings.
Endorphin are chemicals released in the brain that reduces pain.
Fantasy is dwelling to one’s own imagination. Excessive imagination may lead to a delusion of grandeur.
Intellectual Chemistry is when two people have the same level of intelligence. Examples are bookworm because they’ve read a variety of topics, you can expect them to engage in conversation and debates they’ve read about. People who practice NLP have intellectual chemistry. They have the skill to understand a person’s worldview or perspective whether internal or external, and knowing or sensing a person’s favorite sense such as sight, smell, touch, taste, and hearing.
Intellectual or Cognitive Intimacy where two people exchange thoughts, share ideas and enjoy similarities and differences between their opinions. If they can do this in an open and comfortable way, then can become quite intimate in an intellectual area. Source
Intellectualization is using logical explanation to a painful event.
Intimacy is having a deep knowledge and understanding of a subject, person, etc. It is also a close familiarity or friendship.
Introjection is blaming self. Some people who use introjection as a defense mechanism has suicidal tendencies due to depression.
Kismet encountering something by chance that seems like it was meant to be; destiny; fate.
Bible: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
Scientific: Healthy real love is a powerful, vital, natural process of highly valuing, desiring for, often acting for, and taking pleasure in the well being of the loved. Love is further defined as that natural process which functions to
(1.) personally and profoundly connect us (with others and internally),
(2.) provide effective, balanced safeguarding of the loved,
(3.) endeavor for the development and improvement of the loved in multiple, healthful ways,
(4.) bring about healing and maximize recovery from sickness and injury of the loved,
(5.) reward and reinforce us for behaving from and with love via the many joys of love.
Chemistry: According to Dr. Helen Fisher book, Why We Love, Love is an emotion produced in the brain when chemicals when there is a high level of dopamine, norepinephrine, and low-level of serotonin.
Elevated concentrations of dopamine in the brain produce exhilaration, increase energy, hyperactivity, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, trembling, a pounding heart, accelerated breathing, and sometimes mania, anxiety or fear.
Increasing levels of norepinephrine produce exhilaration, excessive energy, sleeplessness and loss of appetite.
Low levels of serotonin produce incessant thinking of the beloved.
As the love affair intensifies, this obsessive thinking can increase — due to a negative relationship between serotonin and its relatives dopamine and norepinephrine. As levels of dopamine and norepinephrine climb, they can cause the serotonin to plummet. This could explain why a lover’s increasing romantic ecstasy actually intensifies the compulsion to daydream, fantasize, muse, ponder, and obsess about the romantic partner.
Love At First Sight are people who tended to visually fixate on the face or spend their time gazing on someone’s eyes, especially when they said an image elicited a feeling of romantic love. They are also people with similar goals, likes and dislikes, passions, or minds working in similar ways or minds that think alike.
Lust At First Sight are images that evoked sexual desire, the subjects’ eyes moved from the face to fixate on the rest of the body.
Mental Health is a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being.
Norepinephrine a chemical stimulant derived from dopamine.
Novelty is the quality of being new or following from that, of being striking, original or unusual; state or quality of being novel, new, or unique.
It is something unusual and entertaining that is popular for a short period of time.
Projection attributing one’s thoughts, feelings and failures toward others.
Rationalization is justifying a behavior by magnifying a resume that is publicly acceptable.
Reaction Formation overacting in the opposite way to the fear.
Regression is going back to an earlier stage of development such as sleeping in a fetal position.
Repression is unconscious forgetting.
Resistance is an instinctive opposition to criticism.
Romantic Chemistry is the kind of emotional rapport that generates feelings of romantic love. When romantic love and sexual chemistry occur together, people often refer to it as couple chemistry, dating chemistry or marriage chemistry. Romantic love can also occur in friendships, without sexual chemistry or physical desire. It only appears when the romantic love became intense or the person loving someone became obsessed.
Selfless Love is when you love someone wholeheartedly and you don’t expect anything in return. It is having little or no concern for oneself, especially with regard to fame, position, money, etc.; unselfish
Selfless love is caring more about others than yourself.
Sexual Intimacy This is the stereotypical definition of intimacy that most people are familiar with. However, this form of intimacy includes a broad range of sensuous activity and is much more than just sexual intercourse. It’s any form of sensual expression with each other. Therefore, intimacy can be many things for different people at different times. Source
Stockholm Syndrome or capture-bonding, is a psychological phenomenon in which hostages express empathy and sympathy and have positive feelings toward their captors, sometimes to the point of defending and identifying with the captors. These feelings are generally considered irrational in light of the danger or risk endured by the victims, who essentially mistake a lack of abuse from their captors for an act of kindness.
Serendipity a fortunate happenstance; a pleasant surprise. A fortunate accident.
Sexual Chemistry is a physical attraction and rapport, which can occur with or without emotional rapport. Sexual chemistry alone can produce attraction to someone you don’t even like.
Sublimation redirecting “wrong” urges into socially acceptable actions.
Team Performance Chemistry, a.k.a Camarederie Chemistry is when great sport teams and music groups have physical rapport that helps the players play synergistically. In business, great teams have a functional rapport that helps them perform at their best.
Unrequited Love is also known as one-sided love is a love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such. The beloved may or may not be aware of the admirer’s deep and strong romantic affections.
Unconditional Love is known as affection without any limitations. It can be also love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, complete love, or “mother’s/father’s love.”
Withdrawal is pathologically isolating self from the others.
Westermarck Effect, or reverse sexual imprinting, is a hypothetical psychological effect through which people who live in close domestic proximity during the first few years of their lives become desensitized to sexual attraction. This phenomenon was first hypothesized by Finnish anthropologist Edvard Westermarck in his book The History of Human Marriage (1891) as one explanation for the incest taboo.
- the men and women who grew up together in a close proximity have reached a certain level of intimacy and familiarity that prevents them from falling in love.