True Love Never Dies

I met Michael during my nursing shifts as a student last week of October 2007. In fact, it was one of my best experiences because I studied and prepared well for that one-week hospital exposure. I badly wanted to become a cardiologist or a cardiothoracic surgeon. Aside from that, I also wanted to become a Gynecologist, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, or a Forensic Psychiatrist. I was happy then because I performed well and had answered right all the questions that were given to me.

During that experience, I met him. He wasn’t the handsomest person in my eyes, we only had something in common, which is to become a doctor (we bonded so much over that) and he’s the one who approached and made friends with me. I’m not the kind of person who falls for a guy because they’re good looking.  There should be more.

It felt so good to meet someone like him because he saw me as a person and he appreciated my mind and my skills. It felt refreshing to meet a guy who treats you as a person and a friend, instead of running for the hills and bullying you.

He was an optimistic and therapeutic friend who  boosted up my confidence. Someone I talk to everyday.

Aside from that, I have to emphasized that he’s the first person I met where I felt love at first sight, we were a good team while working with the doctor, we also have a good *chemistry and *compatibility. But no, he’s not my *lovemap.

Unfortunately, I stayed away from him because he’s got a girlfriend and I fell for him and I even thought he was the one for me.

At first he denied having a girlfriend but I eventually realized he’s taken. (Why do guys loves to keep their relationship status? They’re supposed to say that, so women won’t fall for them, disrespect their relationship, and the women they’re with. Any comment or suggestion on this? Do you remember? It happened with D too.)

Before we graduated, we promised to exchanged stetoscopes and before we went our separate ways he gave me those two blue things in my stetoscope in that picture below. Its caps from the Hydrocortisone medications.   It probably means nothing to him now , but it still means something to me.

Then in 2009, we got in touch again and got closer. We started talking to each other more, we became good friends, we shared our days, plans, and what we wanted to do in our lives. We send each other inspirational quotes and even prayers.

At that time, his relationship with his girlfriend is over. I still have feelings for him, but I made the decision to keep him as a friend. What we had as friends is more important to me and I’ve promised myself that I will never cross that boundary between friendship and lovers again. It’s just not right for me. Then suddenly, he just disappeared on me. I’m not going to assume he’s got feelings for me, but what exactly did I do wrong?

I don’t regret not pursuing my feelings for him especially after meeting D, I know and believe that D is my lovemap and I will chose D over Michael a million times even if D doesn’t belong to me.

Of course, I know in my heart, that I’ll always care and love Michael. I just don’t think I’m in love with him.

For days, I’ve been searching for an old poem I wrote for him about how much I love him and that someday I’ll moved on and love someone else.

But I’m confuse right now. Michael and I are not friends in Facebook. I decided to find him and I found something shock and confusing yesterday.

He’s already married and he’s got a new born baby. It was painful to see. I cried myself to sleep while listening to Adele’s Someone Like You. I know, silly me.

I know D is the person I’m in love with and not Michael. I believe it’s because seeing him with someone else now reminded me of how he left me when he was supposed to be my friend. He said we’ll never stop being friends, but it’s not true.

If I get the chance to talk to Michael, I’ll congratulate him and ask him why he disappeared on me that’s it. I just want to understand why he left me when he’s supposed to be my friend.

It’s really true that even though, I’d finally moved on and I’d met someone I love the most for now.
I’m not in love with him, I just love him as a person, a friend.

True love never really dies.

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Relationship Analysis: Before Trilogy

WARNING! Spoilers Alert. Read at your own risk.

Before trilogy are movies by Richard Linklater.

The first movie Before Sunrise started about a couple who accidentally met on a train from Budapest to Paris. Jesse invited Celine to stroll around in Vienna on a whim before his flight to US the next day. The movie ended with the two deciding not to exchange contact information but to meet again after six months.

The second movie Before Sunset is when Jesse is already a successful author of his novel about his first encounter with Celine in Paris. He was on a book tour and Paris was his last destination. Celine attended the last day and after the presentation of his books, he and Celine caught up with what’s happening in their lives. The ending of the movie showed Jesse still spending time with Celine and he was about to miss his flight back to US.

The third movie Before Midnight showed first Jesse’s relationship with his son from his first ex-wife. Jesse had been living with Celine for 9 years and they have twin daughters. The movie revolved around the couple struggling with the consequences of their actions years ago, balancing love life, parenthood, and career at the same time. The movie ended with Jesse and Celine reaching a new understanding of each other and with a hope that their relationship might work.

How did the characters meet?

Celine and Jesse met while riding a train to Paris. They struck up a conversation after a couple who’s been fighting on the train left their seats. They just started talking to each other. Eventually, since Jesse enjoyed talking Celine he invited her to walk around Vienna and she agreed.

How the characters in the movie are attracted to each other?

On the train, when they started talking, none of them was shy or held back what they were thinking. They trusted each other easily and said whatever came to their mind.

They both made an impression to each other, they have their own ideas, they have opposing beliefs as well. Despite their differences, they felt togetherness, acceptance and respect in terms of their opinions, and beliefs.

They were physically attracted to each other because of their attitudes which had developed into mental and emotional attraction when they shared personal and vulnerable details about themselves.

Celine made an impression with Jesse had seen her as outspoken, smart, passionate, independent, beautiful, she makes him laugh, creative, philosophical and deep. Despite trying to be practical, rational, and pessimistic, she wanted to believe in magic and astrology.

Jesse made an impression with Celine when he started talking about his ideas and dreams. She also found him to be cute, sweet, optimistic, funny, and philosophical too.

– Is it *true love or *lust at first sight? 

When Jesse saw Celine, it showed in the way he looked at her that he was drawn to her and he wanted to talk to her. Celine smiled at him when she sat on the other side of the train. They were drawn to each other, then they started talking and their personalities clicked. They were sincere and open that led their attraction to deepen.

Even Jesse was about to go down the train, they admitted outright that they enjoyed each other’s company and that they have a connection.

Some of the best scenes in the movie were: when they got a CD and listened to it in the booth and then the moment on the prata or the ferris wheel. Being alone together created tension that fired up also love and lust between them.

Then when they talked about their situation in a restaurant holding hands and they said goodbye. I saw their emotions and I was deeply affected too.

On the second movie, at first it was weird and awkward, but they got over it. Next thing we notice, they were chatting as if nine years never happened.

It was obvious that all those times they were separated, they never forgot each other they were both miserable and they wished to find the other. It showed that they missed each other, and they still want to be together.

• Was there chemistry between the couple?

The chemistry between Jesse and Celine were automatic and pretty obvious the moment they started talking.

*Intellectual chemistry happened when they shared their opinions on certain topics. They have a great conversation and they visited different topics under the sun. It showed that they’re both well-read, curious, and smart for their own good. They match each other’s wits.

On the second movie, at first it was weird and awkward, but they touched base with the basics: how they were doing, what they’ve been doing, places they’ve been, past experiences, and then slowly and eventually went to the serious topic, Jesse’s marriage, Celine’s failed relationships, and how they’ve lost their romanticism and innocence the night they’ve met.

*Emotional chemistry happened when they started sharing personal ideas and and intimate information. Jesse said I wish I met you earlier, I want to keep talking to you and Celine said me too.

On the second movie, after talking about their feelings, they’ve both admitted how they still wanted to be with each other in their own words.

*Romantic chemistry happened once they started talking about love after an hour or so in the movie. They expressed how they both wanted to be loved and have a caring relationship.

They’ve expressed their feelings for each other while they were pretending to call their friends.

Celine expressed she fell in love with Jesse when he shared his story as a little boy of seeing his grandmother’s ghost and having those beautiful dreams.

Jesse shared that he felt euphoric meeting Celine and thinks of her as a smart, super passionate, and beautiful angel.

On the second movie, they’ve expressed that they never met anyone with a great connection the way did nine years ago.

The chemistry between them was intact, it was deeper, and richer now that they’ve matured.

*Creative chemistry happened during their conversations. Their personalities matched and produced a synergistic effect.

On the second movie, that effect is still there, somehow they’ve become more rational and practical, but once they’ve met again, it’s as if that their energy and enthusiasm woke up from its deep sleep.

On the third movie, the fight they had in the hotel was a result of pent up frustrations and concerns that were never brought out. I can even compare to friends of mine who’s been together longer than Celine and Jesse. Just like them, those couple also have strong and independent personalities. The fight was natural and real for each character and it shows how they passionate they with their point of views.

– What is the man’s *lovemap? Is it a healthy lovemap or not?

Jesse’s lovemap was influenced by his parents. Seeing how his parents were he gained an early perspective about relationships. When he was 23, his practical and he’s aware how people have romantic projections that is not based on reality.

Although he wants a caring and loving relationship, he also said he preferred to do big things.

He likes to think he wasn’t a romantic guy, but he was being romantic to Celine when they were on the Ferris wheel.

Nine years later, he got married. He believed who he married didn’t matter, what mattered most is he was being a man when he took his responsibility of getting his girlfriend pregnant. He did love her, but the chemistry between their relationship died down. I believe he realized how her wife could never make him happy the way Celine did. They didn’t have a connection.

His wife is a good teacher, and mom, but he doesn’t love her as he used to.

Due to his unhappy marriage, somehow he was still holding on to his memories with Celine. The only person who could make him happy when he’s not back with Celine was his son, Henry.

Another nine years later, he and Celine are together and they have twins Mina and Ella. He’s happier and still realistic, but his suffering with the consequences of getting together with Celine and divorcing his wife. He felt guilty and sad that he wasn’t around while his son was growing up.

As far as my observation goes, I believe Jesse has a healthy lovemap. He may have those romantic projections, but at least, he lives his life in the reality.

No matter how neurotic, pessimistic, and such an angry activist Celine is, he loves her for who she is.

He doesn’t live in the fairy tale world, and he accepted it.

– What is the woman’s lovemap? Is it a healthy lovemap or not?

According to Celine her parents have competitive, aggressive personality, and they revolt against everything such as the government, their conservative catholic backgrounds and they traveled to different places. I have to believe that this fight in the past kept her parents together. Whatever they were fighting for, her parents have the same interests at heart and goals. It was the passion that kept the couple together and the relationship going.

They love Celine and they gave her freedom to do what she wants. She was raised to believe that there’s an enemy she has to fight with, which is why Celine also grew up with a notion to be strong and independent.

While Celine has a grandmother where she thought has a simple and uncomplicated love life, but the truth was her grandmother spent her whole life dreaming of the man she was always in love with. But her grandmother didn’t do anything about her situation, she just accepted her fate.

When Celine was 23, her lovemap was influenced by two models: Her parents and her grandmother.

Her parents’ relationship gave her love, security, everything she needs, and raised her to be open-minded, to have a career where she will practically earn something.

There wasn’t enough information about the grandmother’s love life, but I’m incline to believe that she’s so in love with a man she hardly knows. Celine was disappointed, because she expected her grandmother to do something about her situation.

Despite having practical, rational and intellectual qualities, she has a naivete and innocence in her. She has romantic projections and it meant a lot to her to find someone to love and be loved.

Nine years later, she shared that she had several failed relationships because ever since Jesse happened in her life, she stopped making efforts in her any new relationships, so they all failed. They broke up and all those exes got married.

She was more practical and realistic. I can completely relate to Celine and I am certain that she never moved on completely with Jesse. Just like Celine, I’ve become so detached, numb with feelings, and bitter (wait, except bitterness) when it comes to love and relationships. All those innocence, naivete, and romanticism, she poured all of it to Jesse. (I did it too with D.)

So what’s left of her was a woman who gets into relationships where she have her one foot in the door and one foot out, so it wouldn’t hurt as much. (That I can’t relate cause I haven’t fallen for someone since D, so who knows.)

Celine doesn’t believe in reincarnation, but she wants to believe in magic. She also believed in Astrology. Due to several literatures, studies, and research, I also believed in Astrology, just the profiles or zodiac signs, but I ignore the day-to-day readings.

Another nine years later, when she’s already with Jesse and they have twins, Celine forgot to love herself and instead poured all her love to Jesse, the twins, and her job, to the point where she stopped painting, playing her guitar, and writing songs. They were happy, but she was suffering because she felt like she doesn’t even have time for herself anymore, which also led her to question everything and to get mad of Jesse’s guilt over his son, how she was acting toward his son and his failed marriage, and being pressured to move to Chicago.

In their relationship, Jesse was always gone or on a book tour, it lessened their chances of communication which led to big problems and understandings.

At first observation, I thought Celine had a healthier lovemap than Jesse, because of her perspective, and intellect. She has an unhealthy lovemap, considering that what she have with Jesse is great, but she’s still looking for something more. She hadn’t realized right away, and problems emerged between them because Jesse wasn’t always there, and Celine hadn’t voiced out the problem. It only came out when they finally got the time to be alone again in the hotel.

– Does the relationship contribute to the growth of each person in the relationship? 

In Jesse and Celine’s relationship, I know for sure that their similarities and differences had led each to mature as a person.

They are both smart, well-read, outspoken people who are striving to survive in their career, be happy with their relationship, and they remind and balance each other to think of their decisions thoroughly.

– Do the personalities balance each other, complete each other, or makes them a good team? 

Their personalities are in tune with each other. Jesse’s optimistic and realistic views had big tendency to clash with Celine, but it makes her see the good things in life.

Celine’s feedback with his ideas, and decisions, helps him grow as a person, and it also brings Jesse back on the ground when he makes giant leaps.

Their personalities make a good team, Jesse is a thinker, and Celine is a doer. They could inspire and support each other to do great things.

– Are they capable of maintaining a long-lasting relationship? 

Celine and Jesse can maintain a long-lasting relationship if they exclude any unrealistic expectations of each other, if they keep being transparent, if they kept communicating, and if they make the effort to spend quality time together.

– Why the relationship will work or last longer? 

The relationship will last because they like and enjoy each other’s company. If they could keep each other feel safe, respected, and not alone, that’s also going to help in great lengths.

Here’s a couple who have known each other for a long time and they are used to each other’s personality, differences, and eccentricities. There are things that might make them hate or irritate each other, but at the end of the day, they will make up and fix their problems.

This couple transcended relationships in real life. A couple who liked each other a lot and who could relate to each other pertaining to the different aspects of their lives but might also hate each other for certain reasons.

It has a high probability of working and to last longer due to many similarities that would always magnetize them to be together. No matter how big and serious their arguments are, I know they could fix it for both of their sakes and for their children.

The foundation of their relationship is not just chemistry, but they also have compatible personalities, friendship, trust, love, intimacy, commitment, and respecting each other.

– Why the relationship won’t work or last longer? 

This relationship won’t work or last if they stop communicating, considering each other’s situation, and if they stop using their head and just let their lives be ruled of anger and bitterness.

It won’t work if Jesse will always be too busy for Celine.

It won’t work if Celine will stop voicing out what her real problem, just like she did in the third movie.

There problems got bigger, because they weren’t communicating as open as they did before in the first and second movie.

– What needs to be improved to make the relationship work and last longer?

If this is a real relationship, they need more communication, more quality time to revive the chemistry in their relationship, more time to be vulnerable and intimate.

– How lovemap plays in the couples’ lives?

Intellectual people are very rational and logical. I don’t think I am very intellectual, but when I saw this first movie in 2004 and saw the second movie in 2009, I wasn’t convinced that they fell in love with just knowing each other for just one day.

Now watching the movie, while writing this, I’ve noticed that they had spent a lot of time looking at each other. Even there was a research that proved couples fall in love with each other who have just met if they spent a lot of time looking at each other. Seeing the movie now, and knowing that research, I’m now convinced that they fell in love with this movie.

I’m also convinced because I know a couple like them who are just like them when they first met. According to them, when they found each other, it’s just like finding the other piece of a puzzle.

This relationship is ruled  by chemistry, compatibility, friendship, trust, love, respect, intimacy,  and commitment in that order.

This couple is not even like those couples in copped out movies, where the characters are best friends to indicate they’ve known each other for years and they belong together. In these movies, you could actually see and experience the couple meeting, growing up together, learning new things, committing mistakes, and fixing it as adults. This trilogy is not a fairy tale, they’re realistic and practical.

Kudos to the actors who were passionate in playing the characters Celine and Jesse. They brought the characters and the story to life.

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Relationship Analysis: Serendipity

*Serendipity was a movie about the couple who tried to test fate and find out if it was true. They stringed along their best friends and tried to find each other even when they’re both engaged to be married.

How did the characters meet?

The couple met when they picked the last one pair of gloves in the New York Department store five days before Christmas. A third guy almost bought the gloves, but Jon and Sara pretended to be together and that he was going to buy the gloves for her. In the end, Jon gave Sara the gloves and she treated him desserts in return, to the patisserie called Serendipity.

How the characters in the movie are attracted to each other?

Sara made an impression to Jon, he was willing to get her number, but Sara didn’t agree. They met again moments later back in Serendipity when Jon realized he forgot his scarf and Sara forgot the gloves.

Jon was impressed by Sara’s fierceness, being quick on her feet, witty, attractive, and they had a moment when she returned his scarf by putting it around his neck. He invited her to do something.

While skating, they asked each other random questions. At this time, Jon somehow made an impression on Sara too with his persistence, his sense of humour and she was flattered as he told her that his one favourite New York moment is now as he skates with her, he helped her patched her wound after she slipped on the skating rink, and they had another moment when he shared the story of Queen Cassiopeia then he pointed the Cassiopeia constellation at the sky and drew the constellation in her arm. He ended it with a kiss in her wound.

Later, she gave him his number, and he told her to let fate run its course. Then the test of fate begun.

Is it *love at first sight or *lust at first sight? 

It could have been love at first sight. They fell for each other the moment they spent time skating and when they told each other things that meant something to them. After all, it is possible to fall in love with someone in 90 minutes or less as long they made an impression on each other. It started out as an attraction, and when they got the chance to get to know each other in little ways, the connection between them happened. They clicked together.

Was there *chemistry between the couple?

Chemistry is usually automatic and at times you can create it. In the movie, out of the *eight types of chemistry

*Romantic chemistry happened when Sara and Jon started talking about fate and destiny in the Serendipity patisserie.

*Emotional chemistry happened when Sara and Jon were sharing information about each other when they were skating and when he helped her with her wound beside the skating rink.

*Activity chemistry happened when Jon and Sara ate at the patisserie, skated, and when they tried to act foolishly in the elevator. Doing something silly and new with someone you don’t know, triggers the release of *endorphins in the brain, and also the feeling of *novelty.

What is the man’s *lovemap? Is it a healthy lovemap or not?

Jon has a healthy lovemap. It was shown when he got into a relationship with Halley, who somehow was a good influence on him and his studies.

At first, you wouldn’t think it was a healthy lovemap. He’s got the almost perfect fiancée and he was still rooting to find Sara.

His lovemap was also influenced by his best friend, Dean, he writes for the obituary. He served as the voice of reason to Jon. At the start of the movie, he pointed out, why risked his relationship with Halley compared to a woman he doesn’t know.

It was tricky, in the middle of the movie, Dean eventually told Jon that his wife moved out and the reason was that their relationship died because it didn’t have enough foolishness. He cheered on Jon trying to find Sara cause he admired his foolishness. He shared the quote from the philosopher Epictitus, If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.

Later in the movie, they mistook the woman to be Sara. Dean concluded, that maybe they were lying on the grass because he didn’t want to be standing somewhere else. Jon was supposed to get married the next day. It was an epiphany for Jon and his friend. The adventure to find Sara wasn’t really about finding Sara, it was for him to realize, that the logical choice was to marry Halley, but his heart wasn’t in it.

What is the woman’s lovemap? Is it a healthy lovemap or not?

Sara has a healthy lovemap as proven by her advice to her patient that believing in fate or destiny stops us from doing the real work and that there are many people he could easily find and be happy with.

I started to question her lovemap after seeing her relationship with her fiancé Lars. He was too busy to have time for her and when he told her to don’t fall apart for him. Despite the fact, that Sara just told him, she was losing her mind with everything that’s happening: her patients, her wedding, her honeymoon and his tour for his album.

Her lovemap was also influenced by her best friend Eve, who owns a New Age store. Eve forced Sara to make sense of things all throughout the trip as they look for Jon. She insisted that Lars is Mr. Good enough and stop looking for the mystery guy. She pointed out that Sara got a fiancé who loves her very much.

Eve’s best speech so far is that:

“It’s a wonderful thought. The idea that all of life, that every single event is part of some master plan designed to lead us to our universal soul mate. If that’s really true, then what’s the point of living? Of making decisions?

You make mistakes, and if you’re smart enough, you learn from your mistakes. You figure it out. You think.

Life’s a mess. It’s chaos personified.

It’s not giving up. It’s growing up.”

Lars went to New York to spend time with Sara. During their trip Lars got a call and Sara ended up at the Skating rink. Sara also realized that even Lars loves her, they don’t have a healthy relationship cause Lars don’t have enough time for her which led them to break up for good.

At the last minute, Sara found the dollar bill with Jon’s contact information in Eve’s wallet, which made her stay in New York. For a moment, Sara thought she lost Jon too.

In the end, Eve told her to stop looking for Jon and just feel him in the air.

Does the relationship contribute to the growth of each person in the relationship? 

It’s possible for the relationship to work out basing it on Sara’s job as a shrink. She believed in fate and destiny, but her experience in life and her experience at work somehow lessened it and she learned how to be open minded by focusing on what needs to be done and the real work.

Sara made Jon questioned his belief regarding fate or destiny. Throughout the movie, after she tested him, the audience were under the impression that even if Jon was already with Halley, he was hopeful in trying to find Sara’s information in each Love In The Time of Cholera book.

At the end of the movie, Jon believed that life is a tapestry of events that culminate in a sublime plan. In the relationship, that belief can be a motivation for the couple to believe to wait for the situation to pan out and trust faith.

In this movie, I believe that it’s important to use your head, but you can’t lose faith and you need to trust your instinct.

Do the personalities balance each other, complete each other, or makes them a good team? 

I believe that there is a possibility of them being a good team when they tried to defend the gloves they were trying to buy. It was a team effort. We saw how they tried to help each other, finishing each other’s story.

I didn’t have a firm grasp of Sara’s and Jon’s personality, but in the relationship, she could be the voice of reason and she could also believe in fate and destiny.

Sara somehow made Jon believed about fate and destiny, but after losing his fiancée and Sara, he believed that everything happens for a reason.

They could balance each other as long as they don’t focus much on the idea of soul mates, fate and destiny and focused instead on making their relationship work.

Aside from the devotion they have to find each other after all these years, I couldn’t say for certain what other specific qualities they have to balance each other and make each other feel complete.

Are they capable of maintaining a long-lasting relationship? 

Sara and Jon could maintain a long-lasting relationship as long as they stay fond of each other, and they would continue to work on making the relationship last.

Since Sara is a shrink, I could see her establishing regular communication with Jon and making sure to spend quality time with him based on her experience with Lars.

I could see Jon, making an effort to make things work with Sara to avoid what happened to Dean’s relationship with Courtney.

Why the relationship will work or last longer? 

The relationship will last because they want each other and they could relate to each other.

I don’t know if it’s going to last longer, relationship that last long are couples who are used to each other for years or so. It’s not really about the length, but it’s about the depth and meaning of the relationship, growth and transformation that they’ve brought into each other’s life, and the things they’ve taught each other.

In the movie, I didn’t really see enough trials in the movie to predict the outcome of the relationship. What we only saw in the movie was two people who were already involved with someone, but still felt as if something was missing. It was a movie with a couple who’s got a strong chemistry.

Why the relationship won’t work or last longer? 

Basing it on Jon’s relationship with Halley, he loved her, but he doesn’t love her enough.

Basing it on Sara’s relationship with Lars, a relationship might not work, if both of you were not giving enough effort to make the relationship. They were engaged, but Sara was trying to find another guy and Lars was too focused on his career.

Sara and Jon’s relationship might not last if they get too distracted with each other due to too much chemistry. Other aspects of their life, such as their career might suffer.

If the chemistry, died down, they might feel it’s just chemistry. They don’t really know each other, they don’t have much anything in common that would keep them together.

What needs to be improved to make the relationship work and last longer?

If this is a real relationship, Sara and Jon needs to balance the chemistry in their relationship, when the chemistry is tamed, traits and qualities they don’t like about each other will stand up and it could get them closer or pull them apart. They need to accept their differences and learn how to compromise and love each other in their own way.

How lovemap plays in the couples’ lives?

Unfortunately, I believe that this relationship is ruled by chemistry.  I didn’t get to see, observe and experience any factor that would explain why and how they would fit each other’s lovemap.

There were no patterns to indicate their past relationships and experiences prepared Sara and Jon to be fated or destined.

It was a fun, silly and entertaining movie but in real life, people live in a rational and pragmatic world. Where in relationships you will rarely see them choose the perfect stranger over the logical choice.

There are brave and open-minded people who were lucky to find their lovemap and they would always trump quantity over quality. They would risk losing the logical choice over the perfect stranger because they found more meaning, growth, depth, and transformation in the brief time they’ve spent with them.

A relationship that is not just based on chemistry, love at first sight, lust at first sight, and best friends who became lovers, but a relationship that is so much more, so much bigger than chemistry, love at first or being best friends who became lovers.

Watching the movie is fun, it would also be fun and silly to test faith the way they did, but the results would definitely be different and more complicated in real life.

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